"Seek constant, critical feedback. If you don't know how you're doing you won't know how to improve." - Daniel Pink
Feedback. It's something that is absolutely necessary to progression. It's also something that can bring forth fear of rejection or that though "I'm not good enough." Fear is a real thing and it can manifest itself in many different ways, holding us back from changing anything in our lives. The truth is, fear will always accompany us throughout life. The progression comes from when we recognize this and understand that fear is not in control, we are in control. The more that you put yourself out there, the more fear will subside. Think of a time when you were scared, perhaps your first day at a new job. Did that stop you from going to work? No, you showed up and your fear dissipated.
Once we move past fear, we have the ability and courage to grow. We understand that we need to constantly learn more and receive more from others in order to achieve our goals....
"If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily." - Gerald Good
Why be thankful? For many, answering that question is a no brainer. We have clean water to drink, we have a roof over our heads, there's food on the table every night; why not be thankful? It can be a pretty cut and dry concept.
But is it really? No!
Being thankful/grateful/appreciative is a quality that will change your life, but it does take a bit of training to fully embrace a life of contentment. We may understand when we sit around the table on Thanksgiving that we have a lot to be grateful for, but what about the other 364 days in the year? I often hear people complaining about their job, their obligations, the fact their car is five years old. It's okay to complain sometimes, but really complaining is a way of communicating that your life is not good enough and that you're not happy with where you're at.
On the contrary, when you are grateful that you HAVE...
We have all had those days that result in assaulting a tear-soaked pillow with high-pitched screams. It was a bad day at work, you blew it on a test worth half your grade, your significant other was being an ass. On days like this, it’s easy to turn to mood stabilizers, a bottle of wine, or other vices, but we end up doing our body more harm relying on these outside “pick-me-ups.”
Alcohol may take the edge of initially when you take that first sip or finish your first glass. The buzz gives you a warm and cozy feeling as if a friend is encompassing you in a hug telling you “You’re going to be alright.” Alcohol is not your friend, though, and surely not the solution to your problems. A fleeting warm feeling could easily turn into a bad decision or a mood swing leaving you worse off than you started. Alcohol is a depressant so it’s no surprise that you’d feel depressed after drinking.
Mood stabilizers may not be quite as...
"If not us, who? If not now, when?" - Hillel The Elder
Have you ever complained about something in the world and wished that things were different? I think most of us have. In fact, I've been on a complaining-binge for the past day. We're human, it's fine to wish things were different and feel stuck. However, it is when we constantly complain and talk about how things "should be" without taking action where we find ourselves stagnant...and probably miserable. Queue the pity party.
The quote "Be the change you wish to see in the world," is quite overplayed, but we know it's true. Luckily, in the age we live in, we're starting to see this shift in consciousness. John Perkins called it a consciousness revolution at a panel I attended earlier this year. People are starting to stand up for what they believe is right and fight back against the 1% ruling our economy and lives. That is such a tiny glimpse into the mind of John Perkins and I really encourage...
"It is not fair to ask of others what you are unwilling to do yourself." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Let's talk about expectations and reality, as this is something I think a lot of us struggle with in relationships; at least I do so I'll speak from experience. An expectation of someone is a dirty little fabrication of reality that our minds create. We build ourselves up to let ourselves down and typically take things out on the other person because they couldn't live up to our expectations. Sure, sometimes expectations are absolutely reasonable, but why don't we just focus on expecting things of ourselves? By doing so, we're in charge and responsible for our happiness and success.
Many times, these expectations we set of other people are because we are unwilling to ask the same of ourselves and want to rely on someone else to help us. However, I am a firm believer in building yourself up as much as you possibly can before reaching out to enlist the help of someone else (or getting into...
"The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short, but in setting our aim too low and achieving our mark." - Michelangelo
New month, new moon, and solar eclipse today means it's time to get those gears moving and begin manifesting our dreams. While the new moon is generally a time to lay low and take it easy, it is also the perfect time to reflect on our goals and create a game plan for the next few weeks. This quote by Michelangelo is perfect for today because it encompasses the direction of pursuit.
Setting easy goals is always great. It gives you motivation to complete smaller tasks faster and we can be more productive; but are these small steps propelling us in a way that will get us to the end destination? Many times, the low-hanging fruit will bring us fleeting satisfaction until we find the next easy-to-complete task. This is within our comfort zone and typically doesn't push us to think outside the box and test our limits. When we're...
"Courage is a love affair with the unknown." - Osho
As August comes to an end and we get ready for the New Moon in Virgo tomorrow, this quote couldn't be more relevant to the past month. I've got a confession, I've been totally flirting with courage and it's turned into a full on love affair. Over the past month, I've launched the Kicking Asana website and Facebook page. While the growth has been steady, it's been so liberating to put myself out there and see how the universe reacts. The response has been overwhelming and I can't wait to see what the next few months holds.
Having courage to put yourself out there can be intimidating. What if they don't like what you have to say? What if they don't like you? These are all very common fears and reasonable as well, but it's about overcoming these worries and blossoming into the person you want to be. All the planning you've done, rearranging, lists, and ideas are ready for you to take advantage of. The next step is having the...
"The best way to improve your self-control is to see how and why you lose control." - Kelly McGonigal
Kelly McGonigal is a health psychologist known for her work in the field of "science help," which relates to achieving personal goals despite inner conflict. It's no surprise that these words of wisdom from today's daily quote would come from a trailblazing goddess like Kelly.
I'm all about awareness right now. Awareness of self, awareness of others, awareness of situations. All of it. When we are more aware we are more knowledgable of the situation and our ability to make change becomes much more clear. Awareness is the first stepping stone towards development and it is so crucial that we grow and adapt based on our environments, wants, and needs.
When we are speaking directly about awareness of the self and self-control, we are asking to be blunt with ourselves to stimulate this developmental shift internally. When we find ourselves losing control, whether that be an eating...
"It cannot be said too often; all life is one." - Bill Bryson
Bill Bryson is known for the popular book, A History of Nearly Everything, and today as I sit beneath the trunks of the tallest trees I've ever seen in the middle of Big Sur, I can say I FEEL this unification oozing out of me. While we as species all have different animalistic traits and may not, in many cases, possess similar traits, we all share one quality. We are all on Earth; living, breathing, moving.
The stillness of a silent forest matches the stillness of my body as I rest. The crash of the waves is in sync with the flush of excitement I get when I see my love. All life is one.
Being disconnected from our hyper-speed reality has allowed me to study this oneness on a natural level without the influence of cell phone service or WiFi to interrupt. It is so easy to forget to relate when we are connected. The wall that is the Internet allows us to put our words out there, but does it allow us to...
"Being a give doesn't require extraordinary acts of sacrifice. It just involves a focus on acting in the interests of others." - Adam M. Grant
As someone that came from very little, I've always felt this urge to help people in some way or another. I'm sure you have, too. At times, helping people can be oh-so easy, like holding a door for someone or telling them they have a wad of TP stuck to their shoe. At other times, it can be hard to help someone or you don't know how to help them. I've had that with friends and family and it can be difficult to watch. So where is the in between?
I believe if we live consciously and aware of our actions we are helping others. Whether we are buying local food from the farmers market or choosing to recycle our plastic bottles, we are acting in the interest of others. It doesn't have to be some huge act to save mankind. Ultimately, if each person reading this blog starts to live more consciously and spreads the word, we can create a better world to...
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